31 Mart 2017, Cuma
saat: 08:41
How weird it is to feel someone else fall in love with you, and to feel a responsibility toward that love! The pain of saying 'No' and breaking someone's heart!
I blame Young Werther for my guilt, Goethe managed to mess with my mind from an early age. Sure, Werther has always been glorified as this selfless lover & hopeless romantic, but why doesn't anyone talk about Lotte's agony? What she must have gone through after hearing how Werther's life tragically ended? Our culture encourages crazy blind pursuit of love, doing anything you can to get it (just watch any movie), and not acknowledging a no unless they really really have to. "All is fair in love and war." But the same tolerance is not shown to the person who has to turn down their own Werther, for whatever reason. No movie tells us how to reject someone, and all those books make it look like we were obligated to love them back, so we feel awful that we can't. Why is that? We shouldn’t have to apologize for not loving someone back! --I shouldn’t have to say sorry for the simple fact that in being with who I wanted to be, I had to say goodbye to this other person. Ughh..
I really, really, don't want to waste my time with this, so here's a quick PSA: Please remember saying no is also hard. If someone ever says no to you, just know that they’re most likely struggling with the fact that they are hurting your feelings. To say no is sometimes as hard as to be rejected.
