08 Nisan 2019, Pazartesi
saat: 17:42
Note to self:
1. True love is not something you fall into, or passively happens to you beyond your control. Stop thinking so fatalistic. True love is an active choice, that each day you must wake up and make.
2. True love and romantic love are two different things. One is a conscious, active human choice to stay together with a person even when the road is bumpy and difficult to walk. It is a partnership in work. Whereas the other one is a sum of bullshit ideals and myths pushed by a billion dollar entertainment industry to us, in the form of various hollywood movies and songs.
3. You either choose to love someone and decide/commit to be together no matter what, or you chose otherwise -- be enmeshed in the idea of inert romantic love. Former lasts rather longer than the latter.
4. There is no mystical, destiny man/woman waiting for you sometime, somewhere, and you guys don't meet magically when the time is right. There wasn't and will never be. You are in charge, not some predetermined fate. That kind of fate belief is indeed the ''Turkish fatalism'', as Freud called it.
5. There's no happily ever after either, with this person. There is just sometimes happy. And only when you choose it.
